“But You’re a Girl”

I have always been far from the ‘norm’. I’m not a ‘girly girl’, apart from the fact I have female genitalia, I have always been considered by my friends as ‘one of the guys’.
Think of pre ‘Girlfriend’ Avril Lavigne, but with a fairly strong Birmingham accent, not as thin and with detachable hair, and you’ve got me.

I suppose I am a bit of a feminist (by feminist, I mean feminist, not ‘feminazi‘ or ‘man hater’). I believe in equal rights between men and women and I definitely don’t agree with there being a superior sex. Women shouldn’t be classed as one thing and men another, again, apart from the genitalia differences, everyone is the same. But alas, I’m not here to talk about a ‘battle of the sexes’ I’m here to talk about something that has been pissing me off for quite some time.

“But You’re a Girl”
– The most common phrase any girl or woman will hear in her life time, especially if they’re not into what is classed as the norm for anyone who’s female.

Gaming.
D.I.Y.
Skateboarding.
Tattoos.
Reddit.
My sense of humor.

Above are a few of my interests, all of which have been questioned.

“Get off this server and get back to the kitchen where you belong” – Gaming

“I didn’t think you’d know what you were doing, you know, because you’re a girl.” – Gaming

“Girls can’t be gamers” – Gaming

“You’re going to build you’re own PC? But you’re a girl…” – Gaming/D.I.Y

“Can you even do D.I.Y…?” – D.I.Y

“Skateboarding is for boys, not girls” – Skateboarding

“Why would you do that to yourself, I bet you used to be such a pretty girl” – Tattoos

“I like tattoos.. just not on girls” – Tattoos

“I’m sorry, I didn’t realise you were a girl! Just expected you to be a guy because you’re on here..” – Reddit

“Well you are a girl, so that will get you loads of attention..” – Reddit private message, talking about meeting people through different subreddits.

“You know, when you say things like that, it makes you really unattractive” – Humor

“That’s not really something a woman should be saying/joking about” – Humor

Just a few statements I’ve had said to me over the duration of my life.

Girls – how many of these statements do you recognise? Does it offend you? Does it piss you off? Do you feel hurt? Do you feel degraded? Or do you, like me, not give a shit until it gets old and really fucking annoying?

Guys – how many of these statements do you recognise because you’ve been the one to say them? How do you work out that guys can do one thing, but girls can’t? Why do you feel the need to say some of these things? Or have you ever stuck up for a girl, whether she be a relative, girlfriend or friend who you’ve seen/heard first hand had some of the statements said to her?

The main reason I have decided to write this blog post is because of gaming.
I went to Insomnia 52 last weekend and it was a blast. I was able to pick up some awesome things (such as a metric shit ton of gorgeous Sipsco, Minecraft and BioShock merchandise from the stall GAMETEE had set up there), play some games and I also got to meet some of my favourite YouTuber’s from The Yogscast. However, even though it was a great day and such a fun environment, I was still faced with my biggest ‘problem’.. Being a girl.

Meeting Hat Films, Turps and Sips was my highlight of Insomnia52

Meeting Hat Films, Turps and Sips from The Yogscast was my highlight of Insomnia 52

I love GAMETEE!

I love GAMETEE!

Now, I’m not going to lie, I dressed up for I52, I wore a dress that I’d bought a while back and actually did my makeup and hair, but the main reasons I did this was because a. I usually spend 90% of my time sat in some form of comfy clothing which would probably be deemed inappropriate for the outdoors, without any makeup on and surrounded in pizza boxes and chocolate wrappers and b. because I am severely self conscious, have a horrendous lack of self esteem and I suffer from social anxiety and panic attacks. Basically, I made myself look and feel good so I wouldn’t crumble in a spiral of paranoia.

I noticed multiple reactions spurred by myself whilst I was there, I noticed some people, mainly guys making double takes as I walked towards and past them and I also noticed some ‘I’m going to try and subtly check you out but not realise it’s actually really obvious and freak out/try to act cool when I realise I’ve been spotted and walk into something’ kind of reactions.

Expectation Vs. Reality
– Image not by myself

Another type of reaction I noticed was ‘dirty looks’. I’d get some looks as though they were saying in their heads “pfft, I bet she’s one of those ‘Gamer Girls’ who talk about COD all the time like she’s actually played it and takes half naked selfies of herself nibbling on the controller” which just to clarify, I don’t do, for one I’m not interested in COD in the slightest and the only other place my controller is apart from my hands is hurling through the air at my TV screen.. (yes, I’m one of those).

Looking like an absolute fucking excited psychopath stood next to the real guy, the best guy.

Looking like an absolute fucking psychopath stood next to the real guy, the best guy, Sips.

I was also looked at like I’d been dragged there by my boyfriend, to which reactions suddenly changed when they noticed I was the one doing the dragging, gorping and ‘nerdgasming’ over almost everything I saw.. (not to mention completely freaking out in the que to meet Sips from excitement and borderline panic attack approaching).

I guess my main point in this post is that, even if the whole “you’re a girl, you can’t do this or that” thing was originally started as a joke, it has ended up becoming so fucking annoying and in some cases, it can be really offensive, especially as it now seems that there is a fine line between joking about the gender differences and being incredibly rude and hurtful with sexism.

My friends still do it to me all the time, but I know they do that to wind me up because of how much it pisses me off (but I usually get the last laugh when I kick their ass, tell me I can’t game now, bitch!)

Don’t get me wrong, I’m all up for a laugh and a joke, hell, I’ll even join in sometimes with my own sarcastic little input, but it doesn’t take long before this kind of shit gets old, boring and really fucking annoying.

So the next time you meet a girl like myself, stop and think. Is it really worth pointing out the obvious? Is it really worth making yourself come across like a complete and utter douche-bag? Or do you think that maybe, just maybe you can keep those kinds of comments to yourself or maybe even banish them completely..?

You’ve got to remember, us girls aren’t all damsels in distress, some of us would happily add a new jar of testicles to our ‘Reasons Why You Shouldn’t Piss Me Off’ collection if the opportunity arises.

Until next time,

Plain Jaine x

She’s Pretty in Pink and Full of Grunge

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Pretty Grunge
Or as she is known now; Pink Grunge
My first wig as a Geisha Wigs sponsored model.

This wig is truly beautiful. She is light, soft to the touch and incredibly easy to style as the synthetic fibers are heat resistant to up to 180 degrees.

Out of all of the Geisha Wigs I have the pleasure of owning so far, this wig is by far one of my most natural, comfortable and favourite wigs to wear. I love how light she is and I really love how soft she is to touch, this wig does not feel like a chore to put on and wear, it feels amazing with next to no effort at all.

ImageI highly recommend you get yourself this wig, especially if you want a natural hair do but with that slight edgy look. It is perfect for your inner rock chick but still shows you a professional and ready to go!

If this wig has tickled your fancy, click the image at the beginning of the post or visit the entire Geisha Wigs website by clicking here.

The Girl With the Middle Name of ‘Jaine’

Once upon a time, a time not so long ago, a time, in fact, that is actually right now, a girl with the middle name of ‘Jaine’ debated whether she was worthy.

“No!” She cried, “For I am invisible! No one see’s or notices me!”

And so she went about her days living and thinking this way, yet, she modelled.
She modelled until she was tired and wanted to sleep on the studio floor.

Model: Plain Jaine
Photographer: Fight The Light Photography
MUA: Kosmetiks
Hair: ‘Mermaid’ by Geisha Wigs

“Why?” You ask, “She said she’s not worthy and invisible, why does this ‘Jaine’ model?”

Ah, my dear readers, for it is not actually ‘Jaine’ who thinks and lives by these things, it is the girl with the middle name of ‘Jaine’.

Heather Jaine.

She is the one who thinks she is not worthy, she is the one who is self conscious and frightened of the public, she is the one who feels invisible, she is the one who gave up.

You see, my friends, my name, is Heather Jaine. But right now, Heather Jaine I am not.

I, am Plain Jaine

Model: Plain Jaine
Photographer: Fight The Light Photography
MUA: Kosmetiks
Hair: ‘Duckling’ by Geisha Wigs
Necklace by Hootie McBoutique

I am the fire that is hidden within. I am the confidence that is caged away. I am the beauty that the girl with the middle name of ‘Jaine’ possesses, but will never be conscious of.

I have the power to control her mind for a while, I am what makes her feel good, I make her see something within.

BUT,
I need your help..

I cannot always be there, I am merely an entity that only comes out when the time is right, I may be typing this now and I may be featured in photographs, but I am not always present.

The girl with the middle name of ‘Jaine’ feels invisible, not noticed, unknown.

You can help, and make her feel ‘liked’, here.